When it comes to personal life details, we all tend to be very private and hush-hush about them. It takes a lot of courage for us to come out and reveal things about who we are, and embracing our individuality. I am no different, today I am going to reveal something I had thoughts I might be, and I had confirmed to me, on my own, on September 15th and I would like to share it with all of you.

I am an Aroace, short for Aromantic Asexual. To put it simply, in layman’s terms; Aromantics are people who don’t feel a romantic connection with others. Asexual is the lack of sexual attraction to others, or low or absent interest in or desire for sexual activity.

Being married and having kids is the dream every parent has for their kids, others like my parents are just happy when I am happy. They’ll support me in whatever I do. The latter kind of love is what love means to me. As it pertains to my friends/other people, if they respect me exactly as I am, that’s all I care about.

Romance is a facet of life that just doesn’t appeal to me, whenever the subject comes up, I just don’t really think about it at all. I never really envision myself in a romantic relationship with anyone or having crushes on anyone at all. Nor, have I ever felt those feelings for anyone at all. For me, all the relationships that I’ve ever been in, have felt more like good/great friendships, or brother/sister relationship-friendships and nothing else, and that’s ok. I’ve always had thoughts and feelings that I might be an Aroace, but now I know for sure that I am!

An Aroace can feel love and affection, just in our own different way. For me as an Aroace, just feeling like I’m a part of something, a small piece in the big picture, is how I mostly view myself. Being great/close friends with people, and having friends means way more to me as a person than anything. I never say to myself that I have to find a wife, or have to be married, or be in a romance. If others have romantic relationships, good for them and I hope they go well. For me, I just don’t have those feelings and views towards anyone and towards myself. And while I have no intentions of getting married or finding love, it doesn’t mean I can’t feel love from my family and my close friends. Just the support that I receive for anything that I do or stand for is plenty for me.

I feel glad that I took the time to reveal this about myself, and proud to identify myself as an Aroace! What helped me in learning about what I am, is well researching. During all the research, I discovered that my personality matches the traits of an Aroace and sure enough, after some certified online tests, I found out that I am indeed an Aroace.

And after learning that my own sister is an Aroace as well, It was settled that I am no longer going to hide this, I’m going to proudly display and tell those that ask me about it. She was the driving force in me realizing this about me, and embracing it. She’s going through what I’m going through. Again, I always had thoughts that I could be, but now I know for sure that I am for sure.

So, what I would say to others; “Be you!” Live your life how you want to live it. Embrace who you are, display it proudly for everyone to see and know. It’s what makes you who you are. Have the courage to reveal it to family and close friends. Just being you makes you special to those you associate with. There’s only one person in the whole world like you, and people can like you exactly as you are.

If I and others can do it, you can do it too!